Healing Emotional Neglect with Your Partner

Rebuild the closeness, trust, and emotional safety you've been missing — without blame or shame.

Picture This...

It's Saturday morning.
You're both in the kitchen — one making coffee, the other scrolling on a phone.

You trade quick updates about the kids' schedules and the grocery list.

Then the moment passes.

No laughter. No eye contact that lingers. No "How are you, really?"

The day rolls on with errands, chores, and small talk... but the deeper connection you crave never appears.

You love your partner. But you're starving for connection.

You want to feel safe to open up — and to know they'll open up to you too.

You want to laugh together like you used to.

You want your kids to see what a healthy, loving relationship looks like.

Most of all, you want to stop feeling so alone in the one relationship that matters most.

I hear this from couples all the time, especially when one or both partners grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).

You can have a life that looks good from the outside, and still feel a deep, aching emptiness inside your relationship.

Maybe you've noticed that:

"It's so lonely living in an emotionally disconnected relationship... and it feels just normal now."
"We don't have the skills to deal with changes or conflict and still stay close."
"I still have a challenging time connecting with him... when I do, he has nothing — which enforces my CEN trauma."
"We've been together for years, but I can't remember the last time I felt truly seen by my partner."

If this is you, I want you to know: it's not your fault, it's not your partner's fault, and it can change.

What's Really Happening in Your Relationship

When your feelings were overlooked, minimized, or ignored as a child, you learned — often without realizing it — to push emotions away. You may have been told you were "too sensitive," or simply never taught how to name and share your feelings.

As an adult, this is what we call Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN), and it shows up in relationships like this:

"I feel disconnected, unseen, and unheard."
"We can talk about the kids, the house, the logistics — but not about feelings."
"It's like we're on opposite sides of a glass wall. We can see each other but we can't touch emotionally."

This is not because you're incompatible. It's because no one gave you the skills you needed to connect and repair emotionally.

You Deserve More Than "Fine"

One woman in my program told me:

"It's so lonely living in an emotionally disconnected relationship... we've been like this so long it feels normal. But I know it's not what I want for the rest of my life."

Another said:

"I want to feel connected, seen, heard, and validated so that we can love and support each other more fully and not feel so alone."

You deserve to feel safe, seen, and valued in your relationship.

You deserve to have a partner who understands you — and for them to feel understood by you.

You deserve the kind of connection that makes you feel alive.

The Good News: Skills Can Be Learned

CEN doesn't have to define your relationship forever.

Within just weeks of working with these tools, you could:

Share a hard feeling without it turning into silence or shutdown.
Repair after conflict in 20 minutes instead of days of cold distance
Create one simple weekly ritual that keeps you close — even in your busiest seasons.

Instead of walking on eggshells, you'll know it's safe to speak openly.

Instead of wondering if your partner cares, you'll hear and feel it in their words.

Instead of feeling invisible, you'll be truly understood by the person who matters most.

Over time, the two of you can build a new kind of closeness — steady, safe, and alive. The kind you may have feared was gone for good.

That's why I created...

Healing Emotional Neglect with Your Partner

That's why I created Healing Emotional Neglect with Your Partner.

It gives you the same proven process I've used with hundreds of couples in my office to:

Understand exactly how CEN is shaping your relationship
Learn safe, effective ways to share emotions without blame
Build the trust that makes both of you feel valued and secure
Reconnect in ways that feel natural, consistent, and real

What You'll Discover Inside

This program is designed to take you step by step from disconnection to closeness. Each module builds on the last, so you'll know exactly what to do — and why it works.

Module 1: The Role of CEN in Your Relationship

Have you ever wondered, "Why does something so small feel so big between us?" Or, "Why do we end up pulling away instead of leaning on each other?"

In this first module, you'll finally see the hidden thread running through it all: Childhood Emotional Neglect.

You'll connect the dots between what was missing in your childhood and the walls you feel in your marriage now.

For the first time, you'll be able to say, "This isn't because we're broken or incompatible. It's because no one taught us how."

That shift alone can bring relief — because blame turns into understanding, and understanding opens the door to change.

"It described our relationship problems in our marriage of 14 years to an exact point... I was like – 'Have you been listening in on our fights and conversation lately?' So exactly! So right on! I am like yes, yes, yes, yes and yes to all of the things CEN couples struggle with."

Module 2: Ways to Reach Your CEN Partner

Maybe you've felt like you're carrying the whole relationship on your shoulders. You're the one reading the books, searching online, suggesting counseling. Meanwhile, your partner seems fine keeping things "as is."

This module is for you. You'll learn how to reach your partner without making them defensive, how to ask for what you need without guilt, and how to gently invite them into connection instead of pushing them away.

You'll discover that feedback, when given with love, isn't criticism at all — it's actually an act of care. By learning to approach your partner with warmth and honesty, you'll create the safety that makes it easier for them to meet you halfway.

"There was a lot of never giving feedback in my family which absolutely felt like no one cared about anything, empty. I need to reframe how I think of criticism and feedback because I can be very sensitive to it. Criticism (done right) is a chance to get closer, they care about me."

Module 3: How Are Emotions Handled In Your Relationship?

Emotions are the lifeblood of intimacy, but when you grew up with CEN, feelings can feel confusing, overwhelming, or even wrong. You may know you're upset but not be able to put words to it — or you might shut down instead of sharing what's really going on.

In this module, you'll start to reclaim your feelings as the valuable signals they are. You'll learn how to recognize what you're experiencing in the moment and put it into words your partner can understand.

You'll also see why emotions aren't "right" or "wrong" — they simply matter. That shift alone can change everything. Because when your feelings matter, you matter. And when you share them, your partner has a chance to respond with care instead of distance.

"Hearing the distinction between feelings not being right or wrong—simply MATTERING because feelings are natural, physical and human. Huge paradigm shift for me... That your emotions do not have to be right in order to matter. They MATTER, and if they are 'wrong' they can be corrected or worked thru. In fact, you cannot even determine if they are right or wrong until you actually face them after admitting that they do matter."

Module 4: Communicate on a Feeling Level

If you've ever tried to talk about feelings with your partner and ended up in an argument, silence, or eye rolls, you know how hard this can be. CEN teaches us that feelings are private, or even burdensome — so of course it feels awkward at first to bring them into the open.

In this module, I'll show you how to make emotion-talk feel natural, safe, and even comforting. You'll learn the Harmony–Rupture–Repair cycle — a process that lets you stay close even when you disagree, and reconnect quickly after the inevitable bumps of life.

This is where you stop walking on eggshells. Where you discover that sharing a vulnerable truth doesn't push your partner away — it draws them closer.

"Having grown up with CEN, I did not learn how to communicate on a feeling level with parents, siblings, friends and loved ones. The module about how to communicate on a feeling level was extremely helpful in helping me to understand how to communicate and share my feelings with others and how to do this without criticism or judgement."

Module 5: 5 Exercises to Do Together (Or on Your Own)

Talking is important, but true closeness comes from practicing new ways of being together. That's why this final module gives you simple, powerful exercises that create daily habits of safety and connection.

You'll practice my I Feel / I Want / I Need framework so you can express yourself clearly and calmly, without blame or guilt. You'll try structured conversations that give both of you space to be heard. And you'll learn how to build weekly rituals of closeness that make connection the norm, not the exception.

Even if your partner isn't fully on board yet, these exercises will help you shift the energy between you. As you show up differently, you'll notice your partner starting to respond differently too — often in ways that surprise you.

By the end of the program, you'll not only understand why disconnection has been happening — you'll have the skills and confidence to replace it with the kind of closeness you've always wanted.

"I love the I Feel/I want/I need exercise. Growing up with CEN I was never taught how to use these words in my childhood. I also loved the Structured Communication Exercise. Communication is so important in a relationship and now I have a much better idea of how to structure communication with my partner."

Your Life After the Program

Right now, your relationship may feel heavy. You tiptoe around certain topics, or avoid them altogether. You might sit across the table together, but feel miles apart inside. The silence, the surface-level talk, the loneliness — it's become your normal.

But it doesn't have to stay that way.

Imagine this instead:

You share a vulnerable feeling with your partner, and instead of shutting down, they lean in.
A disagreement that once would have lasted for days now softens in minutes — leaving you feeling closer, not further apart.
There's a weekly ritual you both look forward to — a dependable pocket of connection in the middle of life's busyness.
When you look at your partner, you see not just the person you live with, but someone you truly know — and who truly knows you.

This isn't about becoming a "perfect couple." It's about becoming a connected couple. Two people who can be fully themselves, share openly without fear, and trust that their bond will hold through conflict, change, and everyday stress.

When you have these skills, you'll stop asking yourself, "Am I too much? Am I not enough?" Instead, you'll feel safe, valued, and understood. You'll be able to give and receive love in ways that make you both stronger.

That's the transformation this program offers: moving from silent distance to genuine closeness. From surviving together to truly living together.

So you might be wondering: How does this all work? How are you going to help me...

Understand the Role of CEN in My Relationship
Reach My CEN Partner
Understand How Emotions are Handled in My Relationship
Communicate on a Feeling Level
Deepen the Intimacy of My Relationship

So that I can transform my relationship... even if my partner doesn't want to do the work with me.

Here's my answer...

As you can see, this training goes deep, spending a week with each step so that you can fully understand how to set yourself up for success and start to notice differences in yourself and your relationship as you go along.

Here are the specifics on how we are going to do this:

You'll be sent an invitation to join our exclusive online forum, here's where we will post the weekly videos and detailed worksheets to help you turn the information you are learning into action.

Every week for 5 weeks you will be given the materials for the 5 modules.

I'll provide you with the worksheets, checklists and videos to start making real changes.

I'll walk you through exercises that will help you learn the emotional skills needed for a healthy relationship.

And you will have the opportunity to go through the material at your own pace on your own time to accommodate your busy schedule.

Within just a few weeks, you could notice real, tangible changes in the way you connect.

You might be able to share a hard feeling with your partner without it turning into a shutdown or standoff.

When disagreements happen, instead of walking around in silence for days, you could repair and feel reconnected in 20 minutes or less.

And even in the busiest seasons of life, you could have one simple weekly ritual that keeps your bond strong — a dependable moment of closeness you both look forward to, no matter what else is going on.

"Each module seems to speak directly to both of us, and it has brought us some calm discussions that do not rise to high level emotional outbursts. This has been some of the few times where we have had these discussions in our 25 years together."

Supporting You After the Course

I also want to give you further support as you heal your emotional neglect with your partner. My goal is to give you everything you need to have a deep, safe, loving partnership where you lift each other up.

So that's why I've included this special bonus.

Secrets of a Healthy Relationship

Healing CEN in your relationship is about more than removing the walls between you — it's also about knowing what to build in their place.

That's where Secrets of a Healthy Relationship comes in.

While Healing Emotional Neglect with Your Partner helps you repair old patterns and restore emotional safety, Secrets of a Healthy Relationship shows you exactly what to do next so you can:

Recognize what a healthy, connected relationship truly looks and feels like
Confidently handle conflict without slipping back into CEN habits
Learn how to give and receive love in ways that feel natural and real
Strengthen not just your connection with your partner, but also with yourself

Think of it this way: Healing Emotional Neglect with Your Partner is the foundation.

Secrets of a Healthy Relationship is the blueprint for the home you'll build on top of it.

That's why I'm including it for free — because I don't just want you to stop the pain of disconnection.

I want you to create the kind of relationship that keeps getting stronger, warmer, and more fulfilling year after year.

Childhood Emotional Neglect can make certain elements of a healthy relationship feel wrong and that can lead you to unknowingly sabotage a healthy relationship.

We will cover exactly what these inevitable roadblocks are that CEN throws in your path to achieving an amazing relationship – and how to get past them just by recognizing them.

If you currently don't have a partner and you don't trust yourself to find a healthy relationship because you have made some unhealthy choices in the past, this bonus training will give you a whole new set of tools so that you can begin to trust yourself to recognize true love and fully receive it from an emotionally healthy and supportive partner.

And whether you have a partner or not, this bonus will help you understand what love really is and how to recognize it, feel it, and encourage it to grow in a relationship.

In this training, you will discover...

What a truly healthy relationship looks and feels like — and how to create it
The roadblocks CEN throws in your path, and how to overcome them
How to recognize love, feel it, and express it — even if you never learned how
Why your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship in your life
Practical ways to treat yourself and your partner with more emotional openness and care

From past participants:

"I have done the program with my non CEN partner and we actually look forward to practicing and becoming closer and stronger as a couple.."

"The module about how CEN can make normal aspects of a healthy relationship feel wrong has been invaluable in helping me understand the importance of being emotionally open and respecting my emotional needs."

"Your encouragement and support gave me new tools — and new ways to use old tools. You've been such a wonderful and hopeful help to me, to him, and to us."

By itself, Secrets of a Healthy Relationship is valued at $997.

When you join Healing Emotional Neglect with Your Partner today, you get it for free.

"ALL of it was so helpful...especially the description of what love feels like since I was told I was loved frequently and yet I never felt loved. And after several failed relationships just assumed I must not know how to love right."

Your Investment — and My Promise to You

If you were to sit with me in my office week after week, the cost would quickly climb into the thousands. And while I believe therapy is always worth it, I also know it isn't realistic or accessible for everyone.

That's why I created this program — to give you the same tools and process I use with my clients, in a way that you can bring into your own home, at your own pace.

The full program, plus the Secrets of a Healthy Relationship bonus course (a $997 value on its own), is available to you today for just $1,497 — or 6 monthly payments of $279.

I want you to feel confident saying "yes," so here's my promise:

If you show up, do the work, and don't see the changes you hoped for, you're protected by my 30-day satisfaction guarantee. Simply email me within the first 30 days, and I'll refund your investment (minus a small processing fee).

Why? Because I believe in this work that much. And because you deserve the chance to find out what's possible in your relationship — without second-guessing if it's the right step.

This isn't just another course. It's the start of a new chapter in your life and your relationship — one where you finally feel seen, safe, and connected.

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Still Have Questions?

1) Why would this program work when therapy didn't?

I hear this all the time. Many couples have tried therapy or read relationship books, only to feel like nothing really changed. The difference here is focus and structure.

This program isn't about talking in circles or digging endlessly into the past. It's about learning specific skills that CEN couples never got the chance to learn — and practicing them in a safe, guided way.

That's why so many people say, "For the first time, we actually know what to do — and it's working."

As one participant shared,

"It has been some of the few times in our 25 years together where we've had calm discussions without high emotional outbursts."

2) We've tried relationship programs before and they didn't work. Why would this be different?

Most programs give generic advice that doesn't address the unique challenges of Childhood Emotional Neglect. When feelings were ignored or minimized growing up, it leaves holes in the skillset you need for closeness as an adult.

This program is designed for that exact gap. It gives you the missing tools for emotional connection — the ones that standard advice often skips.

3) My partner isn't interested. Can I still benefit on my own?

Yes. Many people start this program solo. By learning how CEN works and practicing new ways of sharing and responding, you'll naturally shift the energy in your relationship.

Often, partners who seemed uninterested at first begin to notice the change — and lean in. Even if they don't, you'll still feel more confident, less alone, and more emotionally empowered.

4) What if I'm single right now?

This program is designed with couples in mind, but if you're single and want to prepare for a healthy relationship, you'll still get tremendous value. You'll learn how to recognize your feelings, express them safely, and set the tone for deeper connection in the future.

Plus, the bonus course Secrets of a Healthy Relationship is perfect for building the foundation before you even step into your next relationship.

5) We fight a lot. Will this help?

Yes. Fighting isn't the problem — it's how you fight. This program will teach you the Harmony–Rupture–Repair cycle, which shows you how to stay connected even during conflict, and repair quickly afterward.

Instead of days of silence or resentment, you'll learn to turn conflict into a chance for deeper understanding.

6) Our problem isn't fighting — it's never talking about feelings at all. Can this help us?

Absolutely. This is one of the most common patterns for CEN couples. In this program, you'll learn gentle, structured ways to begin talking about emotions so it feels safe, not overwhelming.

Even if feelings have been "off-limits" for years, you'll discover that small, steady steps can open the door to closeness again.

7) How is this different from therapy?

Therapy can be wonderful, but it depends heavily on the therapist and their approach. This program gives you a clear, step-by-step path specifically for CEN in relationships — something most therapists don't specialize in.

You'll know exactly what to do and in what order, and you can revisit the material anytime you need. Many couples even use this program alongside therapy to speed up progress.

8) How is the program different from your book "Running on Empty No More"?

The book is a great introduction to how CEN affects relationships. But relationships are complex, and for most couples, CEN runs deep.

This program goes far beyond awareness. It gives you in-depth guidance, exercises, and a step-by-step process to actually practice and change how you connect with your partner.

As one participant said: "The book is a great introduction, but the program is the game-changer."

9) How is this program different from your "Fuel Up For Life" program?

Fuel Up For Life is focused on your personal healing — reconnecting with your feelings, building self-understanding, and practicing the emotion skills you missed growing up.

Healing Emotional Neglect with Your Partner is focused on your relationship. It's about applying those skills with your partner, learning to communicate on a feeling level, and repairing conflict in ways that bring you closer.

10) I'm already seeing a therapist. Should I do this program too?

That's a wonderful question. If your therapist is open to learning about CEN and supporting you through it, that may be enough. But not all therapists have the training or approach that matches this work.

Many people use this program alongside therapy, and some therapists even recommend it to their clients. If your therapist isn't focused on CEN specifically, this program will give you the structure and tools you need.

11) I'm busy and don't have much time. What if I can't keep up?

That's such a common concern — especially for people with CEN, who give time and energy to everyone else before themselves. Here's what I want you to know: this program is self-paced. You can go as slowly as you need.

Even small steps will make a difference. And you'll have lifetime access, so the material is always there for you when you're ready.

At the end of the day, it comes down to one truth: you are worth the time it takes to build the relationship you long for.

You don't have to keep living side by side in silence. With the right tools, you can rebuild safety, trust, and closeness — and finally feel understood by the person you love most.

Don't wait another year to feel seen. You are worth the time and care it takes to create a safe, loving partnership.

About Dr. Webb

Dr. Webb has been a licensed psychologist since 1991, and has worked in a variety of different settings over the course of her career, including a psychiatric emergency service and substance abuse programs. She has been the Director of several large outpatient clinics. For the past fifteen years, she has been enjoying her private practice in Lexington, Massachusetts, specializing in the treatment of couples and families.

Over two decades of practicing psychology, Dr. Webb gradually started to see a factor from childhood which weighs upon people as adults. This factor is extremely subtle. In fact, it's so difficult to see that it goes virtually unnoticed while it quietly saps a person's joy in life, causing him or her to struggle with self-discipline, or to feel disconnected and unfulfilled. Dr. Webb gave a name to this invisible factor from childhood. She calls it Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).™

"As I became aware of the power and pervasiveness of Emotional Neglect, I felt compelled to draw awareness to it. My goal is to bring this unseen force from childhood out of the darkness and into the light. To make people aware of it and it's effects upon them. To give them the words to talk about it and the tools to fix it."