Discover How To
Find Your Voice and Speak Your Truth Without Being Seen as
"Selfish", "Difficult", or a "Drama Queen"
Ready to Uncover the Most Compelling Emotion Skills to Find Your Voice So You Can Feel Heard, Understood and Valued for Who You Are?
For a lot of people...
Understanding how to find your voice and using it to express your feelings, wants and needs makes the difference between...
Living your life feeling ignored and dismissed, or seen as what you have to say as trivial...
Or living your life feeling worthy of respect and love, where you feel seen and heard, and you get more of what you want more often - making you feel more fulfilled and happier in your life.
Most people with Childhood Emotional Neglect would rather hide their truth, hold in feelings and not share wants or needs if there is any fear of being rejected emotionally.
The problem with this strategy is that there is a lonely feeling that grows inside you because you feel unheard or invisible when your boundaries are being crossed. And this lonely feeling can start consuming your whole life - to the point of not knowing who your authentic self really is.
But mastering the Emotion Skills to speak your truth is life-changing.
The moment you master the art of speaking up for yourself and expressing your feelings, wants and needs, you will know you can rely on your voice, even if it's not always easy.
Finding your voice is the one thing that will unlock unlimited potential and opportunity for you to feel heard, understood and valued for who you are.
How?
Instead of hiding your truth, holding in feelings, wants and needs, you'll thoughtfully and accurately verbalize your feelings when you speak your truth so that you can maximize the likelihood that the other person will hear you.
And the best part is, when you find the right words to speak your truth, the other person will respect you and your truth and see the confidence you have in loving and taking care of yourself. And you will authentically connect and be seen by others because you are authentically connecting with yourself.
And what you'll find is that you will start to break out of the repeating patterns of not getting your emotional needs met, abdicating to other's needs over your own, and feeling emotionally alone or disconnected from others. You will feel more authentic and in control of your life. And you will get to know your true self better.
That's why I created...
Find Your Voice Roadmap
So, I'm doing the next best thing and GIVING you the exact process that I've used successfully with thousands of therapy clients to find their voice and speak their truth...
Including instructional videos, checklists, worksheets and exercises.
You're getting my ENTIRE process.
You can literally go through the program step-by-step to actually find the words to describe how you are feeling, both to yourself and to others.
Including instructional videos, checklists, worksheets and exercises.
You're getting my ENTIRE process.
You can literally go through the program step-by-step to actually find the words to describe how you are feeling, both to yourself and to others.
With this approach, you will finally believe that your thoughts, feelings and needs matter AND that you are allowed to have them.
This is your chance to look over my shoulder as I give you the EXACT same 5-step process I've used for my private therapy clients.
Ultimately, you may feel like I'm a fly on the wall observing your life and putting it into words for you.
You will also feel hope and the encouragement you need to learn the 5 Emotion Skills needed to speak your truth authentically.
I've constructed a structures, supported and streamlined way to discover how to recognize your voice and your truth and speak it so you can maximize the likelihood that the other person will hear you.
I call it my Find Your Voice Roadmap.
This complete step-by-step program will help you fast-track your ability to of speak up for yourself and express your feelings, wants and needs without fear.
This complete step-by-step program will help you fast-track your ability to of speak up for yourself and express your feelings, wants and needs without fear.
How?
Well, I wanted to make this as close to working with me one-on-one as my therapy client as possible (without actually doing it) ...
What you'll get
Module 1: Why is it So Hard to Find Your Voice?
We start here because it's important for you to know exactly how your Childhood Emotional Neglect is affecting your ability to find your voice and speak your truth.
Do you ever get frustrated with yourself for not speaking up? Or feel bad about yourself for staying silent, avoiding conflict or sticky situations?
I want you to know that there are reasons behind your silence. The better you understand what's been squelching your voice, the more freed up you will be to move forward and learn to speak your truth.
In this module, I'll show you how to recognize the signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect and all the ways it has kept you from speaking your truth.
This will help to shine a light on the problems that CEN is causing in finding your voice so that you can see them and take full responsibility to move past them.
In this module, I'll show you how to recognize the signs of Childhood Emotional Neglect and all the ways it has kept you from speaking your truth.
This will help to shine a light on the problems that CEN is causing in finding your voice so that you can see them and take full responsibility to move past them.
"This program has made me rethink my long-held belief that I am a raving introvert. I am thinking deeply about the possibility that my deep-seated discomfort around others may be based on those family experiences, which I then recreated in my adult life."
Module 2: All About Assertiveness
When you speak your truth, it is up to the other person to decide if they will hear you and take it in, or react negatively to it.
In this module, I'll explain how to use assertiveness to speak your truth in a way that maximizes the likelihood that the other person will hear you.
Your truth lies in your thoughts and how you understand and think about things. But even more so, your truth lies in your heart or the feelings you have every single day.
In this module, I'll explain how to use assertiveness to speak your truth in a way that maximizes the likelihood that the other person will hear you.
Your truth lies in your thoughts and how you understand and think about things. But even more so, your truth lies in your heart or the feelings you have every single day.
Accessing and paying attention to your feelings will enable you to express your true self. Your feelings tell you what you want, what you need. Your feelings tell you when you need to protect yourself and when you need to act or to speak up.
But feelings can be intense. So we have to use our brains to process our feelings before they come out of our mouths.
And when we do this, we can find the right words to say so that we have maximized the likelihood that the other person can hear us.
You will also get my Word Choice Guide to help you avoid trigger words and pick the right words, even if you really struggle to articulate just what you are feeling.
"I am thinking I may have actually used humor too much - that I have used it as a crutch or a way to evade saying what I really need to say. And it doesn't work well with my husband who then just kind of blows away what I say lightly. He gets the message so much better when we sit down and I get up the courage to clearly express my concern or need - in a NICE way."
Module 3: The Five Skills Required to Express Your Truth
A lot of people think that speaking your truth should just be automatic – because it's your truth after all. But the reality is that's not true. And when you grow up in a CEN family, speaking your truth is not easy.
In this module, you will discover how to use the 5 most compelling Emotion Skills to express your emotions in a healthy, well-timed way...
In this module, you will discover how to use the 5 most compelling Emotion Skills to express your emotions in a healthy, well-timed way...
Even if you struggle to actually speak up for yourself because your throat closes up or you tend to hold things in and then over-express or blow up trying to get your message across.
And you will get my Feelings Management Help Sheet so you can process your emotions before you speak your truth - so, there's no guesswork or second-guessing yourself about your true emotions.
"I have gotten a lot of insight from therapy (with a therapist who knows about CEN) but not the actual SKILLS that I need. Your program has added that important piece. I have seen evidence that using the skills from this program DO help a lot. So - thank so much for your work."
Module 4: How to Build the Skills You Need to Find and Use Your Voice
Now that you know what the 5 Emotion Skills are, you may be wondering how to build them into your everyday life.
In this module, I'll talk about how to build the 5 Emotion Skills into everyday situations so you can communicate on a feeling level in a way that doesn't make the other person feel blamed or make you feel selfish or demanding.
In this module, I'll talk about how to build the 5 Emotion Skills into everyday situations so you can communicate on a feeling level in a way that doesn't make the other person feel blamed or make you feel selfish or demanding.
And we will cover how to deal with the negative reactions of the other person after you've spoken your truth or expressed your feelings, wants or needs.
With this approach, you can finally give yourself permission to be you. To have your own opinions, wants and desires and feel heard, understood and valued for who you are.
"It's very helpful to understand how to speak about feelings with confidence and not allow CEN to undermine your ability to do so."
Module 5: The Keys to Success
When people first start to find their voice and speak their truth, they tend to fall into the trap of getting mad at themselves for making mistakes or feeling awkward during the process.
In this module we will walk through several different ways to work on speaking your truth and how to assess each attempt so you can learn from it.
In this module we will walk through several different ways to work on speaking your truth and how to assess each attempt so you can learn from it.
You will get my What I Could Have Said worksheet to help you process each attempt.
And you will get my Responses to Common Challenges worksheet so you will know what to say when they say things like: "No need to get all emotional about it" or "Why are you so stuck in the past" or "It's not that big a deal"...
"Hearing the distinction between feelings not being right or wrong—simply MATTERING because feelings are natural, physical and human. Huge paradigm shift for me..."
Your Life After the Program
Once you've worked through the five modules of the program, you'll have a good start on making some significant progress with finding your voice and speaking your truth. If you do the work going forward with dedication and persistence, your life will change.
- You can let go of the resentment that builds up when you don't speak up and you no longer have to deny your true feelings to please someone else.
- You will feel authentic, free and confident. You will trust yourself and be ok with disagreement or conflict.
- You will find the right words at the right moment, expressing how you feel, re-discovering how to say "no" – knowing that you are worthy of your own feelings, thoughts, needs and wants.
- You will experience a fuller, richer and happier life where you can open up to other people more readily and be vulnerable - to find love and feel more relaxed and secure.
- You will honor yourself and finally understand just who you are while becoming more authentic in your relationships.
So you might be wondering: How does this all work? How are you going to help me...
- Understand Why it's So Hard to Find My Voice
- Discover How to Use Assertiveness
- Use the 5 Skills Required to Express My Truth
- Build the Skills I Need to Find and Use My Voice
- Discover the Keys to Success
So that I can build the Emotion Skills to feel heard, understood and valued for who I am.
Here's my answer...
As you can see, this training goes deep, spending a week with each step so that you can fully understand how to set yourself up for success and start to notice differences in yourself and your relationships as you go along.
Here are the specifics on how we are going to do this:
You'll be sent an invitation to join our exclusive online forum, here's where we will post the weekly videos and detailed worksheets to help you turn the information you are learning into action.
Every week for 5 weeks you will be given the materials for the 5 modules.
I'll provide you with the worksheets, checklists and videos to start making real changes.
I'll walk you through exercises that will help you learn the 5 emotion Skills needed to find your voice and speak your truth.
And you will have the opportunity to go through the material at your own pace on your own time to accommodate your busy schedule.
Here are the specifics on how we are going to do this:
You'll be sent an invitation to join our exclusive online forum, here's where we will post the weekly videos and detailed worksheets to help you turn the information you are learning into action.
Every week for 5 weeks you will be given the materials for the 5 modules.
I'll provide you with the worksheets, checklists and videos to start making real changes.
I'll walk you through exercises that will help you learn the 5 emotion Skills needed to find your voice and speak your truth.
And you will have the opportunity to go through the material at your own pace on your own time to accommodate your busy schedule.
Now right about now, you might be thinking: "5 weeks is not enough time. I'm not going to learn the 5 Emotion Skills needed to speak my truth in just 5 weeks."
And you are right. It doesn't happen overnight. You will have to change the way you relate to yourself and your feelings, wants and needs. It is a lifelong process.
If you want to work through your CEN to find your voice once and for all, you've got to stay engaged. So, I just want to promise you that when the program ends, it doesn't actually end. You will continue to have access to all the modules so you can go back to them time after time.
So, as you continue to grow and change and encounter new situations, you will continue to have the support you need to recover from CEN.
And you are right. It doesn't happen overnight. You will have to change the way you relate to yourself and your feelings, wants and needs. It is a lifelong process.
If you want to work through your CEN to find your voice once and for all, you've got to stay engaged. So, I just want to promise you that when the program ends, it doesn't actually end. You will continue to have access to all the modules so you can go back to them time after time.
So, as you continue to grow and change and encounter new situations, you will continue to have the support you need to recover from CEN.
"It described our relationship problems in our marriage of 14 years to an exact point that it was so helpful and just so accurate and right on I was like - have you been listening in on our fights and conversation lately!"
So now, you're probably wondering, "what's this going to cost me?"
I have taken over 25 years of clinical practice and experience and put this program together. It's based on what has worked for my private clients in the past. I have taken all of that knowledge and I have created an online Find Your Voice program specifically for the public that can be done on your own, or with the help of a therapist.
In the best of all worlds, I would have each and every one of you come to my office so that I could go on this journey with you in person. But, of course that's not a realistic possibility. I've also considered offering Skype consultations, and I've received many requests for it from people who live far away and can't get to my office in Boston. But unfortunately, I don't feel comfortable doing that because of recommendations and professional guidelines of the Massachusetts Board of Psychology.
Thousands of folks have contacted me for advice about how they can work directly on CEN to find their voice and speak their truth. It can be very difficult to find an effective therapist, much less one trained in CEN. And when you do, they are often completely booked up.
All of these things together made me realize that I need to make the steps to finding your voice more accessible to people who don't live in New England, or who want to keep their current therapist.
I developed this program so that I can offer everything I've learned to all of the people who can benefit from it.
No, it's not the same as therapy. Nothing really compares to that. But I've put so much into this program that I feel it offers a high-quality alternative when in-person therapy isn't an option, or as an adjunct to your current therapy.
In the best of all worlds, I would have each and every one of you come to my office so that I could go on this journey with you in person. But, of course that's not a realistic possibility. I've also considered offering Skype consultations, and I've received many requests for it from people who live far away and can't get to my office in Boston. But unfortunately, I don't feel comfortable doing that because of recommendations and professional guidelines of the Massachusetts Board of Psychology.
Thousands of folks have contacted me for advice about how they can work directly on CEN to find their voice and speak their truth. It can be very difficult to find an effective therapist, much less one trained in CEN. And when you do, they are often completely booked up.
All of these things together made me realize that I need to make the steps to finding your voice more accessible to people who don't live in New England, or who want to keep their current therapist.
I developed this program so that I can offer everything I've learned to all of the people who can benefit from it.
No, it's not the same as therapy. Nothing really compares to that. But I've put so much into this program that I feel it offers a high-quality alternative when in-person therapy isn't an option, or as an adjunct to your current therapy.
I also wanted to make this program affordable. My therapy clients typically see me an average of 20-30 times at a rate of $300 per session. Well, that quickly adds up to $6,000 - $9000.
Of course, therapy is an investment of time and money which I believe is very worth it. The folks that I help with CEN typically walk away with many tools to change their lives, and with a different feeling about their relationship to themselves.
However, I know that most people would not be able to afford the $9,000 that it takes to work with me one-on-one. I've put together a program that is giving you the same exact strategies and techniques to heal that I do with my private clients.
So no, this is not personal therapy in my office, but the good news is that it also costs far less, and you can have everything I've learned about finding your voice and speaking your truth in the comfort and convenience of your own home, to work through at your own pace.
So I have made this program available for $797.
And to make it even more accessible, you can access the program for just 3 payments of $279 each.
For that investment, you will receive the full benefit of everything I've learned, and the structure to work on finding your voice at your own pace, without having to travel to Massachusetts.
Of course, therapy is an investment of time and money which I believe is very worth it. The folks that I help with CEN typically walk away with many tools to change their lives, and with a different feeling about their relationship to themselves.
However, I know that most people would not be able to afford the $9,000 that it takes to work with me one-on-one. I've put together a program that is giving you the same exact strategies and techniques to heal that I do with my private clients.
So no, this is not personal therapy in my office, but the good news is that it also costs far less, and you can have everything I've learned about finding your voice and speaking your truth in the comfort and convenience of your own home, to work through at your own pace.
So I have made this program available for $797.
And to make it even more accessible, you can access the program for just 3 payments of $279 each.
For that investment, you will receive the full benefit of everything I've learned, and the structure to work on finding your voice at your own pace, without having to travel to Massachusetts.
Here's the great news...
Registering for My Find Your Voice Roadmap is Risk Free:
You're also protected by my
100% Satisfaction Guarantee
100% Satisfaction Guarantee
I also want you to know that I am fully committed to helping you find your voice on your road to recovering from CEN. So much so that I am offering a 30-day money back guarantee. If you invest in the program today and do the work and you aren't seeing the results you want, just email me and I will give you your money back. I believe deeply that this program will help you build the Emotion Skills to feel heard, understood and valued for who you are.
Ready to Reserve Your Spot?
Still have some questions before you reserve your spot?
1) My biggest challenge to finding my voice and speaking my truth is the fear of being rejected and abandoned. Will the program help me with that?
In this program, you will learn what's been holding you back from expressing your voice all these years. You'll learn why you must value your own feelings, wants, and needs, and why they are worthy of attention and expression.
I will lay out the 5 emotion skills you'll need to build so that you can finally be able to express your own feelings, wants, and needs, even in uncomfortable, conflictual, or high-intensity situations.
This is not a surface-level program. You will learn how to build the 5 skills for yourself, and exactly how to practice and learn them.
If you do the work, you will find yourself feeling better protected from people who might push your boundaries, feeling better known and understood by the people around you, and feeling stronger, more valuable, and more valued overall.
And as an added bonus - the people around you will finally get to know the authentic, real you in a truer way, strengthening and deepening their connections with you.
2) How is this program different from your "Fuel Up For Life" Program?
My Fuel Up For Life Program is specifically designed to provide individual members with self-understanding, support, and guidance to heal their Childhood Emotional Neglect. It walks members through the 5 Stages of CEN recovery, from reconnecting with your feelings to learning the emotion skills so that you can use them to energize, connect, and guide you in your life.
In contrast, my Find Your Voice Program addresses the most complex Emotion Skill of all - emotional expression in relationships. It focuses specifically on helping you to find your voice and speak your truth. In this program, you will learn the 5 emotion skills you'll need to build so that you can finally be able to express your own feelings, wants, and needs, even in uncomfortable, conflictual, or high-intensity situations.
In contrast, my Find Your Voice Program addresses the most complex Emotion Skill of all - emotional expression in relationships. It focuses specifically on helping you to find your voice and speak your truth. In this program, you will learn the 5 emotion skills you'll need to build so that you can finally be able to express your own feelings, wants, and needs, even in uncomfortable, conflictual, or high-intensity situations.
3) I'm already seeing a therapist. Should I try to work with my therapist on this or use your program?
This is a great question. And my answer is this: talk to your therapist about it. Is he or she willing to learn the full concept of CEN and how to help you through learning the 5 Emotion Skills necessary to find your voice and speak your truth? If so, then I suggest you take that option.
Many therapists will be very interested and able to help you. But not all therapists will be motivated to follow this specific process, especially if it doesn't fit with their style or theoretical approach to treatment. If this is the case for you, then you can use this program as a supplement to your therapy.
Many therapists will be very interested and able to help you. But not all therapists will be motivated to follow this specific process, especially if it doesn't fit with their style or theoretical approach to treatment. If this is the case for you, then you can use this program as a supplement to your therapy.
4) I'm a busy person. I don't have much time. What if I start this program, and then don't have the time or energy to put into it?
Not having the time and energy is the hallmark of the CEN person. You have it for others. Just not for yourself. But at some point you will have to make a decision: Do you want to feel more fulfilled, grounded and connected with yourself by finding your voice and speaking your truth? If you're not ready yet to want that, then in truth, you're not ready for this program.
But if you want to feel those things, if you want to change your life and your relationships for the better, then you will finally make yourself the priority that you deserve to be. You will find the time and the energy, and I'll help you.
And if you get side-tracked by life while you are taking the program, no worries...
You will have access to the program for as long as I am running it. And I plan on running it for a long time.
It all boils down to this one core belief that we must all accept: You Are Worth It.
But if you want to feel those things, if you want to change your life and your relationships for the better, then you will finally make yourself the priority that you deserve to be. You will find the time and the energy, and I'll help you.
And if you get side-tracked by life while you are taking the program, no worries...
You will have access to the program for as long as I am running it. And I plan on running it for a long time.
It all boils down to this one core belief that we must all accept: You Are Worth It.
About Dr. Webb
Dr. Webb has been a licensed psychologist since 1991, and has worked in a variety of different settings over the course of her career, including a psychiatric emergency service and substance abuse programs. She has been the Director of several large outpatient clinics. For the past fifteen years, she has been enjoying her private practice in Lexington, Massachusetts, specializing in the treatment of couples and families.
Over two decades of practicing psychology, Dr. Webb gradually started to see a factor from childhood which weighs upon people as adults. This factor is extremely subtle. In fact, it's so difficult to see that it goes virtually unnoticed while it quietly saps a person's joy in life, causing him or her to struggle with self-discipline, or to feel disconnected and unfulfilled. Dr. Webb gave a name to this invisible factor from childhood. She calls it Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).™
"As I became aware of the power and pervasiveness of Emotional Neglect, I felt compelled to draw awareness to it. My goal is to bring this unseen force from childhood out of the darkness and into the light. To make people aware of it and it's effects upon them. To give them the words to talk about it and the tools to fix it."
Over two decades of practicing psychology, Dr. Webb gradually started to see a factor from childhood which weighs upon people as adults. This factor is extremely subtle. In fact, it's so difficult to see that it goes virtually unnoticed while it quietly saps a person's joy in life, causing him or her to struggle with self-discipline, or to feel disconnected and unfulfilled. Dr. Webb gave a name to this invisible factor from childhood. She calls it Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).™
"As I became aware of the power and pervasiveness of Emotional Neglect, I felt compelled to draw awareness to it. My goal is to bring this unseen force from childhood out of the darkness and into the light. To make people aware of it and it's effects upon them. To give them the words to talk about it and the tools to fix it."
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